I was having a discussion with a friend today about why is it sometimes we choose to play second place in our lives. Most of the time we choose it in relation to someone else. We decide that we are ok not being a top priority in someones life and just taking a back seat to whatever it is they have as priorities. Now I know we can't always be in first place, but I do think we owe it to ourselves to take care of ourselves first and foremost. If we feel that someone is not taking our needs and desires too seriously and they continuously putting off making decisions to just better suit their situation or perspective all the time. Is that really healthy balance? Is that person or group really taking You into consideration? Take an inventory of all the friendships, relationships, groups, etc.. that you are a part of... are you being respected and honored in what you are wanting? Or are you feeling like there is an imbalance and somehow you are always ending up in second place. As for myself I am going to start by asking myself first to learn to be a little more selfish and take care of my needs first and foremost. Because what I keep learning is that there is no one outside of yourself that will do as good as a job as yourself. And for the relationships where I feel like always in Second or even Fifth place sometimes.. well it is time to loosen the cords of those and take some distance from them for it to be healthy on both sides.
In gratitude for all that are present in my life,
Asha
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