In the last two weeks I have had the great opportunity to be around a wide variety of people from all walks of life. I have been doing a lot of conversing about world issues, personal preferences, economics, etc... You know all those topics that come up at a variety of socially diverse events. I have been doing a lot of observing in between these various interactions, taking note of what the similarities are to human behavior and what my experience has been.
The one common theme lately is how others will try to rain on your parade. You are happy about something for yourself, or for someone else and there is always someone who will have a negative opinion, a negative comment or just give you a downward look and say .. "really is that so?" I lost count on how many times this has happened even within the last 48 hours. I realized that mainly as humans we are only concerned about what is going on with ourselves in our little worlds to even think about what we are doing or saying and how it effects the environment around us. Now of course we can not always be so aware of every little thing we say, that would consume our daily lives too much. But there are times that someone elses day is going so well and all we can do is 'rain' on it trying to get them to feel just as bad as we do or just 'not as good'. It is ashame indeed. We all do it, it is part of being human. After observing others and my interaction over the last two weeks, it occurred to me the ever growing importance for all of us to take a moment before responding or reacting.. because once the words come out or the tone has been set it is very hard to undo the damage that can be done. And when loved ones are happy, peaceful and sharing some great news.. try to be 'present' and enjoy and embrace their successes and happiness. Try not to rain on their parade and allow the sun to shine brighter than ever..
In gratitude
Asha
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I believe we shouldn't expect others to be all that interested in the details of our lives; at least not anymore interested in ours than we are theirs (interesting comment from someone who expects strangers to read about his life, lol!). Having said that, I am a pitiful romantic and I just don't like that we are such an autonomous society (locally and globally). The "progressives" of the world proclaim their awareness, compassion and even "love" for others so often and so publically, however when the truth is coaxed out we see that mostly people don't care all that much about each other. Usually they choose to appear interested because it makes them seem more interesting, kinder... more connected. Likely, they are only pretending to be interested so that they will seem more interesting. THAT is where the comment "Oh really, is that so..." was born. Apathy disguised as interest. Ok, am I really this negative or pessimistic about our cultures. NO, of course not. This is why love is SO important to humanity. Sure, we want to see our civilization advance and prosper and often we will pretend to be interested to encourage that, but the only relationships we can truly devote our personal energy to are the ones that sustain us; the love relationships. That isn't selfish, that's just beautiful. We are born into families and we love one another in a unique and unconditional way. BUT, the loves we choose and dedicate ourselves to are the ones that redeem and preserve our humanity. There is no greater reward as a human being than when you share a single bond that is equally returned with another human being. Awareness and compassion for the masses is a wonderful and necessarry state, but it is that singular bond of love that makes the air worth breathing.
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