I just finished my first week of working in Holland. It was exciting, scary and funny.. to me at least! As I tried speaking in my new language of Dutch, I found many other languages coming out of my mouth as well and my communication style was changing everyday. I never thought I would combine Spanish and Dutch in the same sentence!! By the time the end of the week came around I felt as if I had just spent the last 5 days in some sort of Brain Camp where everything was being reprogrammed. It was really funny to me and thank goodness over the years I have learned to laugh at myself more and more.
What occurred to me as all of these new things are going on around me is the idea of allowance. Really allowing yourself to make the mistakes that you need to. I think we usually have such a fear of failure or fear of being rejected that if we mess up it won't be ok and we will look like a fool or something. I realized this past week how much further from that I have grown. I had no thought of looking like a fool and in fact just allowed myself the space to get creative with my new language and just really found myself concentrating on connecting with the actual people rather than worrying about how foolish it must look for me to be attempting to speak Dutch! And you know the people that I interacted with embraced the fact that I was trying to communicate with them in their language and no one said to me that they thought I was a fool at all nor was I rejected. It was absolutely fine and I actually had alot of fun!
Learning to truly allow yourself be exactly who you are, even in the midst of total strangers, is quite liberating. And I do realize it takes alot of practice. But it also gives you a sense of peace and appreciation for yourself. In the same regard, allowing others to be exactly who they are is important too. There is no need to control others behaviors or what they do, just because you would do things a certain way or respond a certain way doesn't mean that everyone needs to do that as well. Allow others to be who they are and I promise you that it will give you a peace of mind and relationships flow alot better. I don't mean that if someone is treating you with disrespect or disregard that you have to stick around for that. But what I am talking about is those predominantly harmonious relationships you have with your friends, family, romantic partners, co-workers, children, etc.. Allowing others to be exactly who they are lightens things up and you can rest in the fact that everyone is showing up as who they truly are. There is no need to impose what we think others should be on them. Although as I write this I realize that is so much easier said than done. I merely suggest to give it a try, especially with your closest of relationships. I have done this this past week and it has been such a source of peace for me to really allow myself to be the only "me" that I know and to allow others be themselves. What I have found is true peace in connecting with others.
I am obviously still learning alot these days as I still wonder on my journey here in Holland. I will be travelling again soon and will have more pictures to post of the places I get to see and share them with you all. Thanks for the emails and phone calls I recieved this past week. I appreciate the support and encouragement.
I hope everyone is having a great week!
Till next time,
In love and gratitude,
Asha
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